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S: Say It #AtoZChallenge

true loveIn True Love: How to Make Your Relationship Sweeter, Deeper and More Passionate, Daphne Rose Kingma offers more than 60 inspiring and illuminating suggestions to help you expand the possibilities of your own true love.
Three of the suggestions in the book deal with the words from our mouths. Kigma recommends that we:

Say What You Feel
Say Please, and
Say Thank You.


On ‘Say What You Feel,’ she writes:

“Revealing these emotional tides to the person you love is a way for you to continue to endear yourself to and amaze your partner. We often think that intimacy is created merely by falling in love or by what we do, plan, buy, or pursue together. But it is actually the getting to know another person through the intricate texture of his or her emotions that makes us feel truly connected.”

On ‘Say Please,’ she shares:

“Saying ‘Please’ is a way of always holding your beloved in high regard, of treating him or her as a person who still-and always-deserves to be approached with the graciousness that good manners confer. It’s like polishing the silver. It gives the depth of reflection and kindness to your love, the lustre of graciousness to even the most familiar gestures.”

On ‘Say Thank You,’ she says:

“It’s all too easy, in any relationship, to become (internally at least) a whining, complaining grump who feels as if the other person has never done, and will never do, anything nice or special for you. Saying “Thank You” dispels this feeling of hopelessness and creates an internal attitude of optimism. A pathway is formed in our minds which in time becomes a thoroughfare; the belief that we have been treated with generosity and goodness of heart, that we have, if you will, been loved, begins to take root in our consciousness.”

Keeping Love Alive

Keeping Love Alive


Love is easy when we’re in the throes of young, passionate adoration. At that stage in our relationship, our new love can do nothing wrong. We rarely see any imperfections as we blissfully float along on Cloud Nine.

And then…time passes and real life intrudes, bursting our bubble of near-sighted love. We discover that our life has feet of clay, and often we find more to grumble about than just that. What used to be sweet idiosyncrasies now annoys the heck out of us.

Keeping love alive is possible, but now it needs a little care and concentrated effort.

So, what do you do to stoke the flames and keep the love fires burning hot and bright? Here’s a few tips, taken from a wonderful book, True Love: How to Make Your Relationship Sweeter, Deeper and More Passionate, by Daphne Rose Kingma.

  • Celebrate the Exceptional
  • Praise the Ordinary
  • Do the Extraordinary Ordinary Thing
  • Be a Person of Your Word
  • Criticize Only in Private
  • Do the Unexpected
  • Behave Yourself in Public
  • Shower Each Other With Kisses
  • Speak the Love Words
  • Say Please
  • Give More Gifts
  • Ask if You Can Help
  • Ask the Ridiculous Question
  • Listen for the Meaning Beneath the Words
  • Walk a Mile in Your Sweetheart’s Shoes
  • Say Thank You

Sound like too much? How about picking one a day. For that day, concentrate on making a conscious effort to incorporate this little step into your daily life. The next day, pick another. Or, repeat the prior day’s action. Better yet, use them both and keep adding every day until these become second nature.

Try it and see.



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test of relationshipThe ultimate test of a relationship is to disagree but to hold hands. ~Quoted by Alexandra Penney in Self.

There are many tests in relationships. Sometimes months will go by without one. And sometimes they show themselves it seems every day. And no matter what you’ve been through before, not matter how many trials you’ve struggled with together, each new test is like starting from zero.

It’s frequently stated to never go to bed mad. Sometimes that advice is followed. And many times not. But I think Alexandra Penney may be onto something here. I think she’s right. Being able to hold hands, even in the midst of disagreeing with your lover, is a true test on the quality of your love.

Can your love pass this test? Are you able to disagree but still hold hands?